It’s not all good food & fun

Just in case you thought slowing down and savoring life meant every day is blissful…

Slowing down and getting quiet also provides more mental space, which allows more thoughts to surface. They may be inspired new ideas, or they may be ugly truths that you have buried by staying busy.

Regardless, truth is good to know. It will indeed, I believe, set you free — to move forward with your life. The truth, however, is not always comfortable.

Today has been an ugly truth kind of day. While I have been happily working on my own “stuff” for a while now, I was still holding onto hope regarding a relationship. And I need to let that go. It doesn’t mean I am counting it out, saying it will never happen in the future; it just means that this (year probably) is not the right time.

Letting go can be harder sometimes than at other times. Today has been hard.

Winter heartbreak haiku, Carmen Walsh,2/24//019

You are not broken

Remember, even when the whole moon is not visible, the moon is still whole: We simply can’t see it all at that moment.

We are never less than whole. We are just finding our way out of the darkness into the light. ❤️

Love yourself, as you are right now. Shine whatever light you have and trust that you will be restored to your full brilliance. Cycles are simply a part of nature, nothing to be feared.

A new (snow) day

A year ago, shoveling my driveway would have brought a lot of grumbling and cursing: about the cold, about the neighbors (who never offered to help me), and about the snow plows (that just drove by making the end of my driveway even deeper to dig out). I HATED it. The whole experience made me furious.

This evening as I shoveled my driveway and sidewalk, I was grateful: for being able to work from home today so that I didn’t need to worry about traveling treacherous roads, for the temperatures that were starting to climb, for warm clothes and boots, for a house of my own with a driveway and garage.

Right after shoveling. I would not have been smiling like this a year ago. 😁

Changing your mindset is the most powerful action you can take. It’s pretty simple to begin: just look for the blessings. Once you start noticing them, you will be amazed how much you have to be thankful for.

Sunday slowdown

I used to be jealous of the people who enjoyed leisurely breakfasts and lunches on the weekends. Those people always seemed to have free time to do fun things. Meanwhile, I was always trying to keep up with what seemed like 50 different activities–very few of them feeling like fun at that pace. It didn’t seem fair.

This past year, it came to my attention that we all have exactly the same amount of time: 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. It is our choices that dictate how that time is spent.

Our choices. Hmm. So if I was the one choosing how I spent my time, why was I frantic, desperate to not drop any of the balls I was juggling? And why exactly was I juggling all those balls anyway? Why was I choosing to live that way?

So recently I’ve been exploring those why’s, and that journey has been really interesting. Then I started asking myself: What do I really want to choose? How do I want to live?

In a nutshell, I want to be happy and enjoy this life. It is a gift after all. If I look at it that way, everything becomes a blessing, something for which to be grateful. And so then I want to slow down and savor it.

It’s midafternoon on a Sunday, and so far I have enjoyed eating breakfast, doodling while sipping my mocha, decluttering and organizing my house a little more, and partaking in this lovely lunch, complete with an accompaniment of Brazilian music.

Baby spinach with shrimp, red pepper, red onion, tomatoes, and Greek dressing. Simple and delicious.

Yes, now I have the less-sexy task of completing my taxes, but I am blessed to have income to report and a computer with which to do them.

May you start finding and savoring the blessings in your everyday life. It really can change your entire experience of life.

Getting off the hamster wheel

I told a good friend recently that I had gotten off the hamster wheel, permanently – so this title “The ONE THING You Need to Know To Be Able To Get Off the Hamster Wheel” got my attention.

The article is spot on, in my opinion. I am fully immersed in Tip 1 now, creating white space of solitude to better tune into my inner voice and discover what I truly want. I highly recommend it.

I don’t know about you, but I want to savor all the deliciousness I can the rest of my life. 🙏🏻❤️ #daretoeatapeach #prufrock #liveyourlifeyourway

Sick day self-care

Because even/especially when you’re sick, you gotta eat well.

Salads are a super easy way to get a healthy variety of nutrients – and flavors! This salad was a baby spinach base with grape tomatoes, blueberries, sunflower seeds, and shredded chicken. I topped it with a drizzle of homemade vinaigrette. Delicious!

The importance of being happy

Watch this video, in which Ada Pia tells the story of her “Journey to Freedom.” I have a feeling it will resonate with some of you. I know it did with me.

Several months ago, I said to my parents, “I don’t care what I DO anymore; I just want to BE happy.” That was a big deal. My parents believe in doing. To my surprise, they seemed happy for me when I said that.

These last couple of years, I have left behind my own businesses for the most part, my relationship as it was, my community commitments – so many things I had put my time, energy, and tears into. I had no grand plan, no specific path to follow. (I still don’t.) I think I just instinctively knew I had to drastically scale back my activity so I could remember what Happy feels like for me. I have recently come to believe that happiness is how we honor this gift of life we are given. All other decisions and actions then over/flow from that path to happiness — and it all requires listening to that inner voice.

It’s certainly not always easy, but life finally feels worth it — unlike the hamster wheel I was running on for years.

Thus my 2019 word, savor. I am slowing down, rediscovering happiness in all that life brings. May you savor your life as well. ❤️ 🌟

My word for 2019

Well here it is, my word for 2019: SAVOR.

I started with “presence”— I wanted to be more present in every aspect of my life. But I wanted to convey more of an elevated feeling than simply present.

After a few years of running myself completely ragged and feeling as if I was failing miserably in multiple areas, I wanted to choose a word about slowing down and sucking out all the juiciness of life (a “dare to eat a peach” kind of thing). I want to fully appreciate every moment.

“Savor” eventually came to me. And then words that started with the letters of “savor” kept showing up, linked to this idea of being fully present and savoring various aspects of my life and also what I want to bring into my life this year. So bring it, 2019. ❤️🌟

Musings by Carmen Walsh